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Raising Independent Kids: Little Moments That Make a Big Impact
Raising Independent Kids: Little Moments That Make a Big Impact
One of the most meaningful gifts we can give our children is the chance to grow into confident, capable, and independent people, step by step, in everyday life. Whether your child is just starting in PK or on the edge of middle school, these early years are a perfect time to build independence and emotional resilience.
As a school, we’re here to partner with you in that process. Here are a few small (but powerful!) ways you can help foster independence at home and set your child up for success this school year:
1. Let Them Take the Lead Preparing for the School Day… After Teaching Them How
Morning routines are full of chances for kids to step up—but only after they’ve been shown how. Teaching your child how to pack her backpack, lay out her uniform, or check her homework is the first step. I also recommend doing those tasks in the evening, so mornings feel a little less like a race against the clock. Giving them these responsibilities not only builds skills, but it also shows them that you trust them (even if it takes a little longer at first!).
Morning routines are full of chances for kids to step up—but only after they’ve been shown how. Teaching your child how to pack her backpack, lay out her uniform, or check her homework is the first step. I also recommend doing those tasks in the evening, so mornings feel a little less like a race against the clock. Giving them these responsibilities not only builds skills, but it also shows them that you trust them (even if it takes a little longer at first!).
2. Build Confidence at Drop-Off
We love how much you care about your kids…we do, too! But we’ve noticed a few backseat hangouts during carpool. As comforting as it may feel to ride beside her, we encourage you to stay in the front seat and let your child handle getting out of the car on her own. These small, brave moments build confidence and help children start their day feeling capable. Bonus: it keeps carpool running safely and smoothly for everyone.
We love how much you care about your kids…we do, too! But we’ve noticed a few backseat hangouts during carpool. As comforting as it may feel to ride beside her, we encourage you to stay in the front seat and let your child handle getting out of the car on her own. These small, brave moments build confidence and help children start their day feeling capable. Bonus: it keeps carpool running safely and smoothly for everyone.
3. Give Them Small Choices
Independence doesn’t have to be big or dramatic. Offering two outfit options on the weekend or letting them choose their bedtime book gives kids a sense of control and helps build decision-making skills. It may seem simple, but those little choices add up!
Independence doesn’t have to be big or dramatic. Offering two outfit options on the weekend or letting them choose their bedtime book gives kids a sense of control and helps build decision-making skills. It may seem simple, but those little choices add up!
4. Encourage Problem Solving (Even When It’s Hard!)
Forgotten homework? Left the violin at home? Instead of racing to the rescue, try walking your child through how to solve the problem next time. We know it can be hard to watch them face natural consequences, but these small stumbles are where real learning happens. A missed
Forgotten homework? Left the violin at home? Instead of racing to the rescue, try walking your child through how to solve the problem next time. We know it can be hard to watch them face natural consequences, but these small stumbles are where real learning happens. A missed
Lacrosse stick today might mean they remember it for weeks to come.
5. Support Healthy Separation
Transitions can be tough…especially early in the school year. It’s totally normal for kids to feel a bit nervous at drop-off. A quick, confident goodbye, a smile, and a “You’ve got this!” can make all the difference. (And don’t worry, our team and I are ready to step in with warmth and care the second you drive away.)
Transitions can be tough…especially early in the school year. It’s totally normal for kids to feel a bit nervous at drop-off. A quick, confident goodbye, a smile, and a “You’ve got this!” can make all the difference. (And don’t worry, our team and I are ready to step in with warmth and care the second you drive away.)
We’re all here to support your children every step of the way as they grow into brave, kind, and independent individuals. Thanks for helping us create space for kids to rise, and for trusting them (and us!) with that growth.
The Hockaday School
Within the private school community, The Hockaday School is an independent college-preparatory day school for girls from grades PK–12 located in Dallas, Texas. Students realize their limitless potential through challenging academic curricula, arts, athletics, and extracurricular programs so that they are inspired to lead lives of purpose and impact.
The Hockaday School does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, national origin, ethnicity, creed, religion, sexual orientation, disability, or any other status protected by applicable law in the administration of its educational, admissions, financial aid, athletic, and other policies and programs.
The Hockaday School does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, national origin, ethnicity, creed, religion, sexual orientation, disability, or any other status protected by applicable law in the administration of its educational, admissions, financial aid, athletic, and other policies and programs.